This Stood Out
Link from HW – article on sexual ethics for Buddhist
As for an example of a constructive one mixed with confusion, consider the case of the mother of a 24 year-old son who always tries to do kind things for him, such as preparing nice meals. Nurturing her son is an act of love and a constructive deed. It will ripen into her experiencing happiness and well-being. However, she also cooks for him because it makes her feel useful and needed. This is where the confusion comes in. The 24 year-old son might not want to be treated like a child who, when he doesn't come home for meals, gets accosted with “Why didn't you come home? I made such a nice meal for you. You're so inconsiderate.” Her preparing the meal was mixed with the confusion of grasping at “me, me, me. I want to feel useful, I want to feel needed.” Self-centered concern underlay her constructive action and kind motivation. Any happiness she might feel as a result of her kind actions will be precarious and unstable. It will never last and will never be satisfying. In addition, her self-centered motivation will inevitably bring her frustration, unhappiness, and suffering.
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I just found it quite an interesting read, with cute examples given by the writer, or maybe sounds cute because of the way it was transcribed?
